How to…?

Back to office after a long vacation? Which is exactly like someone has burst the bubble of blissful dream. You’re already in bad mood, and difficult people make it more difficult. Just then a friend sends you this link to an article ‘How to handle difficult people’ (http://www.smartcompany.com.au/people-problems/new-eve-ash-26597.html)

The article covers managing difficult people at workplace. This subject can be applied to our day to day lives too. I think each one of us at some point of time in our life have faced one such person. If not, you’re an extremely good person. (The last sentence doesn’t make any sense. )

From what I’ve experienced, the worst kind of difficult persons is the one who is absurd. Or they pretend to be, and actually they are sly? They can irritate you till death. Lying is their superior weapon; blatant liars. They lie even though it is obvious, they are so confident and keep pushing you down. You are tired and would want to end the argument. What would you do? Either agree with them or ignore? In any case they win, cause that is all they wanted. You try all the polite things; speak to them in private, ask for clarification, request them not to bring up such things in future. There they agree with you, and you are relaxed now, but the next moment they are back to original state. And now you’re sad.

The easiest way is the aggressive response, but in reality it is the worst. Since they are master in this area, if you try to come a little harsh, then and there they win. In some cases, they accept their lies and go all puppy face. This is worst of the worst, they win and make you feel guilty of a crime you never committed.  Now you’re sad, plus have guilty feeling.

Since I could never come up with any good way out, I over use ignorance. In the end I’m sad for how I be so vulnerable. How do you deal with such people in real life,  given the fact that you can’t avoid daily encounter with them?

Analyze this

Normally when two people meet for the first time, they do not dislike each other, and most of them have positive feelings. When I meet someone new, I don’t like them. In few initial encounters I see thru them and all I see are their faults. I tend to avoid them/ speak without any interest (and make sure it is apparent)/ sulk / make faces whenever they aint looking… Sometimes I pass nasty smiles, but smiling should be avoided; nasty or heartily, it can back fire. Evidently, the result of such behavior will result in people running away. But then few people stay, and if for once they do, they will stay forever.  Hell of a screening process for such gems. No no it is not for mutual benefit at all, and we are not prudent here.  Also I’m not any hidden treasure that only a few special people have the power to discover. Let’s make it simple and  call it ‘we were destined to share something’. This is the selfless bond that creates itself, I name it friend-ship.

I’ve come up with graphical illustration of this theory of mine:- 

  

The red lines represent any new person’s behavior, and would be denoted by variable N
The green lines represent the my behavior, denoted by I
The horizontal axis represent the time (T)
The vertical axis represent the behavior (B)
B=0, represents the neutral behavior
Initially N will be B_max (Good), and I can have any value B_max/B_min/B₀

I
At T=0
N = B_max
I = {i|-b<i<+b}

II
At T=t
If N –>0 then I –>0
If N increases (in terms of b) then I–>-b or I –>0

III
At T=Θ
N–>+∞
I–>+∞